????領(lǐng)導(dǎo)力內(nèi)部網(wǎng)絡(luò)是一個(gè)在線社區(qū),，最有思想、最具影響力的商界人士將在此回答關(guān)于職業(yè)與領(lǐng)導(dǎo)力的問題,。今天我們的問題是：如果錯(cuò)過了一次升職,，接下來應(yīng)該怎么辦？以下為Axonify公司CEO卡洛爾·利曼的回答,。

????沒有比錯(cuò)過一次升職更令人失望的事情了,。遭遇這種事，人們必定會(huì)感覺自己受到了傷害,，還會(huì)產(chǎn)生許多其他情緒,，諸如失望、屈辱,、憤怒和怨恨等,。

????等到你獲悉這個(gè)壞消息時(shí)，你可能已經(jīng)連續(xù)幾周激動(dòng)地展望如何在新職位上大展拳腳,，得意洋洋地準(zhǔn)備迎接更高的關(guān)注度和更多的責(zé)任,。突然之間，晴天一聲霹靂,！公司短短的一句話讓你不知所措：“我非常抱歉,，你沒能獲得升職?！蹦泷R上開始拿自己與得到升職的那個(gè)人進(jìn)行對(duì)比,，想弄清楚“他們有哪些我不具備的條件？”

????我管理員工已有些年頭,，坦白說,，一個(gè)人得不到升職會(huì)有無數(shù)個(gè)理由。比如基本經(jīng)驗(yàn),，個(gè)性/領(lǐng)導(dǎo)素質(zhì),，以及公司有大批優(yōu)秀的候選人可供選擇等等,。所以，如果你面臨這樣的情況,，我能給你的最好建議是：不要糾結(jié)于自己沒有得到升職的原因,。即便公司的理由非常充分，你也很難超然地看待這些理由,。因?yàn)槟愀咀霾坏?。相反，你?yīng)該馬上做下面幾件事,，當(dāng)下一次機(jī)會(huì)來臨時(shí),，增加自己成功的機(jī)會(huì)：

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????如果可能的話，請(qǐng)一天假為自己減壓,。允許自己在私底下感受那些糟糕的情緒,，但要抵擋住意氣用事的誘惑，不要跟其他員工說一些沒用的廢話,。因?yàn)槟氵@樣的表現(xiàn),，會(huì)令其他同事處在一種非常不舒服的境地，并且進(jìn)一步證明作為一名潛在領(lǐng)導(dǎo)者,，你無法應(yīng)對(duì)失敗,。而這些都無助于你獲得下一個(gè)升職機(jī)會(huì)。

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????The Leadership Insider network is an online community where the most thoughtful and influential people in business contribute answers to timely questions about careers and leadership. Today’s answer to the question: When you get passed up on a promotion, what’s the next step? is written by Carol Leaman, CEO of Axonify.

????There are few things more disappointing than getting passed over for a promotion. It’s virtually impossible not to feel personally offended and a host of other emotions — disappointment, humiliation, anger and resentment among them.

????By the time you get the bad news, you’ve already spent several weeks feeling excited about what you’d do in the new role and chuffed about additional visibility and responsibility. Then boom! You get the wind knocked out of you in one short sentence: “I’m really sorry, but you didn’t get the job.” You instantly start comparing yourself to the person who did get the promotion, wondering “What did they have that I didn’t?”

????As a person who has managed employees for years, I can truthfully say that there are a million possible reasons for not getting promoted. They range from basic experience, to personality/leadership qualities to having a lot of excellent candidates to choose from. So here’s the best piece of advice I can give if you find yourself in this position: Don’t dwell on the reasons why. Assume the reasons were good and that you simply don’t have the ability to see them from a third party perspective. Because you really don’t. Instead, do the following things immediately to increase your chances of success the next time this opportunity comes around:

????Take a deep breath

????If at all possible take a day off to decompress. Allow yourself to feel those rotten emotions in private, and resist the temptation to act impulsively by trash talking to other employees. You’ll put your co-workers in a really uncomfortable position and reinforce the idea that as a potential leader, you can’t handle failure. None of these things will help you get the promotion the next time around.

????Talk to your manager

????Once you’re over the worst of the disappointment, meet with your manager to ask: If there were two specific things you could suggest that I work on to improve my chances in the future, what would they be? Then really put in the effort to make these changes. Make sure your manager knows you don’t just want to hear the easy stuff — you want the truth. And don’t argue about why you think you already are or do their suggestions; just listen.

????Be gracious

????Nothing says leadership and maturity more than offering genuine congratulations to the person who did get the job. That person will naturally be anxious about their ongoing relationship with you. Show him or her immediately that you are as committed and supportive as ever. They’ll appreciate it more than you know, and become your biggest supporter in your next bid.

????Keep it in perspective

????Challenges and disappointments in life are simply put in our way to help us grow. Think about all the crappy things that have happened to you over the years, and how you got past them having learned a life lesson. Most are in the distant past and you can barely remember how bad you felt. This will be one of them.

????Be honest with yourself

????Finally, take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself: Was I honestly ready of the promotion? The reality is, most people aren’t. Stellar individual contributors in any organization are visible to everyone, incredibly valuable and command respect and demonstrate leadership without titles and direct reports. If you suspect you might be one of them, consider what other goals you can set for yourself that will get you noticed, additional compensation and give you tremendous personal satisfaction.

????Don’t let being passed over for a promotion be a defining negative event in your life. See it for what it is – a moment in time. There will be lots of others.